Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Growing Up

When you move a kid around a lot, often enough he will reach this conclusion. Making attachments are the same as making complications. Nothing good can come of it so why bother in the first place. If the child is smart (and most certainly are) he will also realize that some relationships are necessary to get ahead in life. So he learns to observe and to listen. Most people are simple, give them what they want and you keep them happy.

Relationships in his mind, are an equation. All the child has to do is figure out the role that will fit the equation and play it till such time he has to move again. When this happens, all previous relationships are promptly forgotten. Deleted to make way for new equations and new people.

Life however, is not so simple. Eventually, and with the grace of God the child will encounter relationships that defy what he has spent a lifetime learning. Relationships that are based on the essences of love, and acceptance, and purity, none of which he understands.So he tests them, again and again, often to the breaking point and beyond. Desperately trying to cling to his belief that he was superior in his selfish knowledge. That he was right all along and everyone leaves in the end so best brace for it early on.

What the child (though in age he might not be one anymore) fails to understand is that the relationships that truly matter aren't made in any mold, it does not have a discernible shape, no outcome that can be calculated. There is no win or lose. There are only lessons that the child must learn if he is to become a man.